Have you ever wondered what it is that sets successful people apart from average? I have been looking into this quite some time now and found that there are some common traits that they all have.

1. DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS; YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEIR JOURNEY IS ALL ABOUT.

When I was growing up, if I ever compared myself to someone else, my dad would always say ‘I don’t care about them, I am talking about you’! Now it is all making sense…
Stop trying to be someone else. We all have our own distinct purposes and journey in life. Be yourself always and strive to become the best version of you. You are original, so don’t try to pretend that you are someone else.

2. DON’T ACT THE WAY YOU ARE FEELING. INSTEAD, ACT THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL.

Have you ever heard of the saying ‘Fake it till you make it’? This is what it is about.

Successful people believe in their goals and dreams, they practice the feeling what it is like when they achieve their goals, they practice how they will talk, act and what they would become like well before their reach their goals.

High achievers get disappointed a lot because they put themselves out there and therefore fail many times. Since they are highly-optimistic people, they see advantage in adversity and make the best of every situation rather than letting the emotion get to them.

3. MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST SO IT WON’T SCREW UP YOUR PRESENT.

We all tend to hold onto past hurts caused by others, and even mistakes we beat ourselves up for.

You need to forgive yourself for every mistake you have made in the past. Make sure you learn your lessons, then let go and move on.

It is also important that you let go of any past hurts caused by others. You need to remember that they did the best they could in the given situation.

Forgiveness is the first step to progress and only those with a strong heart can forgive themselves and those who have hurt them. Move forward today and stop dwelling on the past.

4. YOU CAN’T DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF, SO GET HELP ALONG THE WAY.

Successful people know that if they tried to do everything themselves, they would not progress very far, as such they become people of great influence.

Your level of influence in most cases determines your level of success. Make meaningful relationships and help others get what they want.

You need to also remember that the people you get to help you must be smarter than you. If you are the smartest in your team, you have a problem.

5. IF YOU CAN’T SAY ANYTHING NICE, DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL.

They don’t speak for the sake of speaking. They speak when they have something to say.

High achievers know that to listen is much better than to talk.

6. IF YOU ARE NOT LEARNING YOU ARE DIEING.

In order to keep on top of your game you need to learn something new each day, or do something every day that scares you. In whatever way you can strive to be better, make sure that you are outside your comfort zone to keep growing on all levels, this is the gateway to tremendous self-improvement. It is the secret of high achievers.

7. CHANGE ONLY WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE AND LET GO OF THE REST.

You can’t change everything you want to change.

No matter how important it may be, sometimes it’s better to do your own part and leave the coming generation to do theirs.

Things we can’t change, if we persist, eventually change us.

8. WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

What matters most in life is your belief in yourself and you have to hold firm this belief in yourself.

Many people get bogged down thinking about what others think of them. You have to know that if they talk about you that is a good thing, it means you impressed them somehow. You don’t have to know what they say.

9. NEVER TEST THE DEPTH OF THE RIVER WITH BOTH FEET.

This is very important. To succeed in life you will need to take risks. But you shouldn’t take unnecessary risks. Make sure that you don’t put all your eggs into one basket; you may never recover from it.

Minimise your risks in life.

10. HONESTY IS A VERY EXPENSIVE GIFT. DO NOT EXPECT IT FROM CHEAP PEOPLE.

This is one of Warren Buffet’s guiding principles.

I have learned this lesson the hard way and my experiences are not very pretty.

The sooner you learn this, the better. Do not expect too much from people–only a few men have that virtue called integrity.