Failure, it is certainly not my favourite word in the dictionary. It radiates such a negative energy, when really failure should be looked at as opportunity! Opportunity to learn about ourselves, opportunity to do whatever we failed at better next time.
Failure is actually great for growth and development. And whilst we need that, there are some traits and habits you could work on to better your success rate and still learn along the way.
1. Persist, Persist, Persist
If you encounter a minor set back, don’t give up. This is just put in your way to test you, see if you find your genius to overcome the challenge. I am sure you heard about the gold miner, who would not spend money on a geologist, and kept digging around, sold his farm, and the new owner started digging just a few metres away from where the first one left off to find a massive gold deposit. You never know when you will hit your gold mine, so don’t give up at the first sign of resistance.
Try new approaches, engage others with more knowledge, keep making adjustments, but don’t lose sign of your goals.
Once you decide on something that is worth doing, make sure that it is something that you are passionate about. There is no point on doing something half-heartedly, that will only produce mediocre outcomes.
You need to have conviction in what you want to achieve, follow your values. It is OK to work with others toward your success, you don’t have to do it alone. To get people to work with you however you have to look confident and have to prove your conviction to the cause.
You also need to have conviction in yourself. Poor self-esteem and lack of self-worth shine through in your actions more than you know it. If you failed before, you are not a failure. At least you have got up and tried. So look at it in a positive manner, and know that you can achieve your goal.
3. Discipline is a Must!
You don’t need to be a perfectionist. In fact always thrive for excellence, not perfection. Be clear on what it will take to achieve your goal. Be realistic of your expectations, and stick to your plans and your goals. No-one ever achieved anything worthwhile without discipline.
It takes self-control to avoid distractions and temptations. It requires focus on your goals instead of giving in. If you master discipline it will help you persist and it will also build your self-esteem.
4. Stop Rationalising
Losers rationalise, they come up with every excuse under the sun why they failed. In fact they rationalise their stand point on why they are going to fail before they even begin and call it ‘I am just being realistic!’
If you notice that you are falling into that trap you need to stop and start looking at whatever it may be from a different perspective. You can analyse, you can learn what happened and why in the past and fine tune your steps forward.
5. Learn from past mistakes
Do not just dismiss your mistakes. Like I mentioned they are providing an opportunity to grow, to learn and to fine tune your actions for the future. Check your strategy, check your goal, think about what you are really trying to achieve and analyse why it hasn’t yet happened.
At the end of the day, what will you gain if you fail? Will it prove to you your beliefs about you or will you learn to stand back up and try again?