You may wonder what beliefs have to do with anything. They’re just thoughts after all, right? Yes, beliefs are thoughts, yet they can determine your actions and reactions to things, as such they have the power to hold you back from doing the exact things that would make you happy.
If for some reason you decided that you are not good enough, you’d believe subconsciously that you are not worth the effort or you don’t deserve success. Because of this subconscious belief, you would often found yourself self-sabotaging your actions each time you set out to achieve anything for yourself. Or you might not even try as you would think it’d be a waste of time.
Self-worth beliefs can be hard to unearth, so let’s look at something that is easier to identify. Have you heard that making money was through hard work? Your parent may have been telling you this for years. You’d have this set as a program by the age of 7! What might this type of belief do?
First, you may find yourself resisting any opportunities that seem “too good to be true” simply because you don’t believe that good things will happen to you “just like that”. You might also feel inclined to refuse any offers of help that come to you from other people, even if you really want help. You might even go so far as to subconsciously CREATE obstacles and difficulties along the way, just to “prove” to yourself that your beliefs are true.
This may sound far-fetched, but the mind works in mysterious ways! It’s amazing how easily we can trick ourselves into believing something, and how fiercely we will defend our beliefs when they are challenged – even by ourselves.
How do you know if you have subconscious beliefs that might be holding you back?
One simple way to find out is to grab a sheet of paper and a pen, and start writing statements like these:
- “I deserve to be successful and happy.”
- “Success comes easily to me.”
- “I attract money from all avenues.”
- “I encounter opportunities wherever I go.”
- “I am living the life of my dreams.”
- “I am clear about what I want in life.”
- “Failures are just an opportunity to learn.”
- “I believe in my ability to create the success I desire.”
Then take a look at what you wrote and as you read each statement, pay attention to how you feel inside. If any statement conflicts with one of your existing beliefs, you will feel a twinge of guilt or fear inside, as if you are lying. It may be subtle, but if you pay close enough attention you will feel it.
Make a checkmark next to any statement that doesn’ t feel true to you. THOSE are the beliefs you need to work on changing if you want to make any progress.
How do you change existing beliefs? You replace them with more empowering beliefs. Doing this is a process, it won’t happen overnight. It will need your commitment.
So as you feel the resistance coming up with any of the statements turn them into questions. i.e. Failures are just an opportunity to learn. – if this brought up resistance, it could mean that you have a fear of failure. So look at it from another angle. Find all the events in your life that you think of as failure, how did you handle them? How did you overcome them? Find the answers. And keep focusing on them to turn your negative beliefs around
The more frequently and passionately you can reinforce the positive findings in your mind, the more quickly your underlying belief will change.
What if you can’t recall any failures you’ve overcome successfully in the past? Is it time to give up? Not yet! Instead, think about opportunities to tackle a failure now now. Visualise how you would do it.
Remember that changing your beliefs is a process but if you keep at it, it won’t be long before you start to notice a big change in your attitude. And like so many other things in life, the more you practice the technique, the better you’ll get at it.
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