One of my favourite quote is ‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.’ by Maya Angelou. Why is it so important that you remember this? Because complaining is a negative energy that is counterproductive to greatness.
The main reason we complain is because we feel powerless or insecure about the situation. Instead of seeing whatever we complain about as an opportunity to improve, to get what we want, to change, we look at it as a drag. The problem is that each time we complain we reinforce the negative situation to ourselves, so the practice becomes habitual.
If you complain that you don’t have enough money, the market place is tough to crack, and people aren’t buying from you not only you reaffirm that message to yourself, but it will start showing up in your communication to your clients. And guess what will then happen? You’ll start repelling them even further.
To be a leader in this world, it is imperative that you break this habit!
First step to reducing our own complaint is to start looking at the people that are influencing this behaviour and enabling you to be a complainer. And you won’t have to look far! Start with your family. Unfortunately research has shown that to every positive statement, you’ll be bombarded with six negative statements – like ‘why can’t you be more like your brother?’, ‘You get on my nerves when you do this’, ‘we can’t afford that’ or ‘you can’t do that’.
So start your discovery at home then move into your business life and your electronic communications. Listen to your conversations. Check your emails, chats, social media. Who are the people that are giving you more than 20 negative statement in any one day. If you can start reducing your contact with these people you are making a good start to changing your bad habit of complaining.
Listen to your own words as you are talking to people as well and start eliminating your complaint process so you can be part of the solution rather then the problem. If someone starts of complaining, don’t join them! Instead show them the positive side of whatever they are complaining about.
People don’t want to hear your complaints. It’s negative. It drags people down and it reflects poorly on you. Not to mention that complaining undermines your efforts to be a leader and to attract what you desire to see in your life.
People like people that can inspire them for the better. So if someone complains try to be part of the solution. Anyone can offer more negativity and criticism. Be different, be encouraging, be positive. Be awesome, and instead of complaining raise your energy with a positive attitude, keen self-awareness and being authentically you.